No relationship is perfect.
But let’s face it:
Some are much better than others. They really are.
And one of the cornerstones of a great relationship is having a partner who genuinely respects you and wants what’s best for you.
It’s about far more than kind words or going through the motions. It’s about a partner who truly and clearly cares for you at a deep level and is there by your side.
Here are the signs you’re in a relationship with somebody who values you at the deepest level and prioritizes your happiness and well-being.
1) Consistently thoughtful gestures
Your partner does little things for you that make your day better, from sending you a funny joke to dropping off your favorite latte for you at work.
They frequently surprise you with small gestures that show they’ve been thinking about you.
They care about you and love to see you happy.
They’re not expecting you to react a certain way or even be in a good mood, mind you. They’re just doing what they hope will have a positive impact on you.
2) Considering your needs and limits
Your partner cares about your needs and they also respect your boundaries.
They don’t try to captain the ship of the relationship solo:
They give you your fair say and respect.
They take your needs and desires into account when making decisions that affect both of you.
They consistently show a willingness to compromise when necessary.
3) Communicating respectfully
They communicate openly and respectfully, pausing to let you speak.
They clearly value your opinions and feelings, even if they differ from their own.
It’s not that you always agree or see things the same way. You may be completely different in how you think and feel!
But they make it clear that they aren’t sweeping your thoughts and feelings under the rug. You matter to them. A lot!
4) Actively listening to you
They genuinely listen when you speak, remembering what you say and internalizing it.
They don’t just hear the words you speak, they hear the needs and insecurities behind those words and respond accordingly.
They make an effort to incorporate what you say and care about into your shared experiences and to truly be there for you instead of just playing a role.
5) Celebrating your wins
They celebrate your successes as if they were their own.
They have the opposite of schadenfreude:
They take genuine happiness in your accomplishments and want to help you keep growing and succeeding in whichever ways possible.
They cheer you on every step of the way and are your biggest fan across the board.
6) Doing activities with you that you both love
It goes far beyond just cheering you on:
A partner who prioritizes your happiness loves to do things with you.
They prioritize spending quality time together, engaging in activities that you both enjoy and that contribute positively to your relationship.
Whether this is fun hobbies or taking a course together and learning some new skill, they are there by your side loving every minute of it.
7) Empathetic and understanding of your struggles
They demonstrate empathy and understanding during difficult times, offering emotional support and reassurance.
No matter what you’re going through, they don’t try to deny it or act like everything’s fine.
They understand that sometimes you just need a comforting presence around or need to be reminded that you’re loved.
And other times you need to be left alone.
Which brings me to the next point…
8) Giving you time and space when you need it
They respect your boundaries and make an effort to understand and accommodate your personal space and independence.
When you’re going through a tough time and need support they are there to offer it.
But when they can see that you really do need some time and space to yourself, they respect that.
They are able to give you the love you need but also the space and independence you need. It’s a balance that’s often lacking in many relationships.
9) Showing you consistent affection and appreciation
They express affection and appreciation regularly, making you feel valued and loved in the relationship.
It’s more than just a peck on the cheek or a fun time in bed now and then.
Their real affection and love for you comes through in a million small ways and the way they kiss you and act around you is full of love and care.
They touch you like they mean it – because they do!
10) Treating you with ongoing honesty and trust
Your partner treats you with honesty and trust, letting you into their inner circle.
They respect you and let you know how they’re really doing, making sure you’re up to date on their life and developments.
They voluntarily open themselves up to you and are also willing to be emotionally vulnerable.
They are honest and trustworthy, fostering an environment of openness and transparency in the relationship.
11) Encouraging you to grow and evolve
Your partner cares about what you want in life and your own journey.
They aren’t trying to make you a carbon copy of themselves, and they’re not trying to pressure you into a path they approve of.
They let you be you. They let you go after your dreams.
They encourage your personal growth and development, instead of trying to pressure you to do what they think you should do.
They assist you in pursuing new interests and opportunities for self-improvement.
12) Resolving conflicts instead of avoiding them
Conflicts come up in every relationship from time to time.
That’s not a dealbreaker.
And this partner puts you first by not taking things personally and trying to find a solution.
They don’t focus on who’s to blame or how badly you’ve messed up or how angry or sad they are.
Instead, they approach conflicts with a desire to find solutions that work for both of you, rather than resorting to blame or criticism.
13) Helping plan a shared future with you
When it comes to the future, they think about goals that will work for both of you.
They aren’t just waxing poetic about a future where they get what they want, they’re thinking of you and your unique life plan, too.
They include you in their long-term plans and discuss future goals as a team.
It’s crystal clear that they have a commitment to building a shared future that prioritizes both of your happiness, not just theirs.